书籍 Mistakes Were Made的封面

Mistakes Were Made

Carol Tavris

出版社

Mariner Books

出版时间

2008-02-29

ISBN

9780156033909

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍

Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they make mistakes? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell? Renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson take a compelling look into how the brain is wired for self-justification. When we make mistakes, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right - a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong. Backed by years of research and delivered in lively, energetic prose, "Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me)" offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception - how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it.

卡罗尔·塔夫里斯(Carol Tavris),社会心理学家、演说家和作家。为《洛杉矶时报》《纽约时报》《科学美国人》和其他一些出版物撰写心理学专栏文章。

艾略特·阿伦森(Elliot Aronson),当今世界上最杰出的社会心理学家之一,全球销量突破千万册的《社会性动物》作者。被同时代的人推选为“20世纪最有影响力的100位心理学家之一”,也是唯一一位获得过由美国心理学会颁发的写作、教学和研究3个最高奖项的心理学家。

用户评论
要勇敢认错
Confirmation Bias,这个确实太强大了,要如何对抗呢?
摘录:All of us have hard decisions to make at times in our lives; not all of them will be right ... and wise. Some are complicated, with consequences we could never have foreseen. If we can resist the temptation to justify our actions in a rigid, overconfident way, we can leave the door open to empathy and an appreciation of life's complexity...
goodness.. 原来是elliot写的,怪不得……
内容值得一看,但是故事叙述和观点联系太繁冗了。另外我觉得它的理论虽然有足够的支撑,可是态度有点消极,基本上在说我们的大脑在尽其所能让我们做个混蛋,但是justifying dissonance还是有很重要的生理意义的。
对事不对人or对人不对事,it depends
研究表明,美满的夫妻关系中积极交流(如爱,温存和幽默)与消极交流(如烦恼,抱怨和争吵)之比为5:1,这是婚姻关系的临界点,当比例小于5:1时,这段关系将很难延续。 承认错误的确很难,因为自我辩护几乎是自动形成的,但是了解认知失调以及自我辩护是如何起作用的,能够让我们主动意识到自己的错误。 当我们去评价一个人时,我们依据的并不是他是否犯过错,而是犯错后他是怎么做的。 我一定要改正!
不用写那么长。
其实就是对社会心理学里头认知不协调的各种引申和案例,为什么人会不停为自己的错误找理由辩护,为什么人的判断会出现显而易见的bias,以及为什么人倾向于对自己的bias视而不见,许多观点在《社会性动物》也出现过。
Cognitive Dissident,最近几次遇到这个词,需要尽快读一下这本。这本书证实一直以来对心理学偏见的起源,心理治疗师多数是神棍一样的人物,心理学必须经历科学实证的检验。另外,解释了刑事司法系统的冤案错案的心理学原因。真正的理中客其实非常难,承认自己不客观,才有可能客观。关于问题的分析解释很中肯,不过,作者提出的解决方法恰恰反映同样的问题,让瘾君子主动戒毒,靠人们自我批评的看法太幼稚,社会心理学解决政治问题完全是一厢情愿。