书籍 Give and Take的封面

Give and Take

Adam M. Grant Ph.D.

出版社

Viking Adult

出版时间

2013-04-08

ISBN

9780670026555

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍

An innovative, groundbreaking book that will captivate readers of Malcolm Gladwell, Daniel Pink, The Power of Habit, and Quiet

For generations, we have focused on the individual drivers of success: passion, hard work, talent, and luck. But today, success is increasingly dependent on how we interact with others. It turns out that at work, most people operate as either takers, matchers, or givers. Whereas takers strive to get as much as possible from others and matchers aim to trade evenly, givers are the rare breed of people who contribute to others without expecting anything in return.

Using his own pioneering research as Wharton's youngest tenured professor, Grant (author of Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World) shows that these styles have a surprising impact on success. Although some givers get exploited and burn out, the rest achieve extraordinary results across a wide range of industries. Combining cutting-edge evidence with captivating stories, this landmark book shows how one of America's best networkers developed his connections, why the creative genius behind one of the most popular shows in television history toiled for years in anonymity, how a basketball executive responsible for multiple draft busts transformed his franchise into a winner, and how we could have anticipated Enron's demise four years before the company collapsed-without ever looking at a single number.

Praised by bestselling authors such as Dan Pink, Tony Hsieh, Dan Ariely, Susan Cain, Dan Gilbert, Gretchen Rubin, Bob Sutton, David Allen, Robert Cialdini, and Seth Godin-as well as senior leaders from Google, McKinsey, Merck, Estee Lauder, Nike, and NASA-Give and Take highlights what effective networking, collaboration, influence, negotiation, and leadership skills have in common. This landmark book opens up an approach to success that has the power to transform not just individuals and groups, but entire organizations and communities.

目录
1 Good Returns p. 1
The Dangers and Rewards of Giving More Than You Get
2 The Peacock and the Panda p. 27
How Givers, Takers, and Matchers Build Networks
3 The Ripple Effect p. 61

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https://zhuanlan.zhihu.com/p/32672726 可以概括这本书的内容。https://zhuanlan.zhihu.com/p/32672726
givers把蛋糕做大,因此大家都受益。但是不要做一味的付出,也不要忘记像他人寻求帮助。take the initiative to be the giver,and adapt to the reprospective type of others.
基本认同,谁都不希望和一个纯 taker 合作。不要浪费时间在 taker 上(或者逃离这种环境)。giving 也要有技巧,作雷锋只会把自己耗尽。
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清楚的分析了付出型、获得型、仲裁型的路线。有的案例比较偏颇,认同整体的结论:付出型+仲裁型会获得持久的成长。
这是一本社会心理学的书籍,人人应该学习一点儿心理学。不过把人分成付出者、接受者和互利者显得过于简单,人哪有这么简单!这是学科细分化的后遗症。书中引用了大量的心理学实验,以及很多案例。城市化导致越来越多的人要生活在由陌生人组成的人情逐渐冷漠化的时代,越来越多的人会认为其他人是接受者而隐藏自己付出者的良好动机,结果真的导致冷漠化。幸福感主要来源于人情的美好,人情美好来自于彼此的关爱和付出。所以无论无何都要做一个付出者。当然要做一个兼顾他利和自利的付出者。
挺好的 一些行为逻辑通过分析就好像容易被理解
沃顿商学院心理学教授Adam Grant将人分为给予者(Giver), Matcher(匹配者)和 Taker(索取者),人们以为为他人着想的人容易吃亏,而只考虑利己、手段毒辣的人容易成功,然而这一假设是错误的。 Grant研究发现,获得长期成就的不是索取者或匹配者,而是给予者 —— 他们总是主动帮助别人,乐于分享,不求回报。在变幻莫测的世界,你很难确定谁是你的贵人,因此帮助他人是成功的必要前提。 我没有遇见过“只进不出”的索取者,我相信没有人是彻底的索取者,这样的人很有可能社会性死亡;相反,我遇到的同学、教授、同事或是一面之缘朋友,彼此尽最大所能给予对方时间、反馈、引荐或其他资源。有实力的人从来不会有零和博弈的思维,也不在乎付出,而是关注把蛋糕做大。成就他人,也会让你自己更成功。
2022年的第11本书。受益匪浅,努力在生活和工作中实践。
此类书里面算不错的,支撑观点的除了case study还有empirical studies(studies的质量暂且不论)。有启发。team thinking和other thinking对于我这种偏giver并且在维护自己的利益时经常觉得为难的人非常有帮助。