书籍 What Happened to You?的封面

What Happened to You?

Oprah Winfrey

出版时间

2021-04-26

ISBN

9781250223180

评分

★★★★★

标签

心理学

书籍介绍

Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.

“Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”―Oprah Winfrey

This book is going to change the way you see your life.

Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question.

Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”

Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future―opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.

用户评论
what happened to you is what is happening to you
Rhythms. Heartbeat. >Walking, dancing, and singing. - The natural world has reassuring rhythms that can anchor our days. As we walk, we tune in to our own natural rhythms and are able to have a break from the noise and stimulation of our busy lives. Stress can help build resilience – in the right doses.
非常科学系统的分析了trauma以及影响,不像一般的self-help书只给可以简单复制的小帖士。最后一段直接给我听哭了。
喜欢的作者,有新意的写作方式。把trauma对人一生的影响说得更加清楚了,有很多影响深刻的片段和金句。奥普拉的故事和串联也恰到好处。其实非常推荐新父母看,有大段大段内容都在说婴幼儿时期的关系对发展的重要性。
Super readable because of its conversational style. Maybe not entirely earth-shattering, but great stuff for sure.
#潜意识的力量,形成原因,以及如何改变
关于创伤应对机制的图解、说明和后续(如何)通过人际联系(陪伴、交往、咨询 etc)重建反应模式比较有意义,案例也好。将困境乃至行为特点、性格缺陷归咎于童年、原生家庭(thesis)本身并不新鲜。
聊天的形式很chill,有声书果然才是这本书的正确打开方式。虽然内容老生常谈了些,不过对于才刚开始进行原生家庭“自我救赎”的人来讲倒也挺合适的。唯一不能苟同的是最后Oprah讲她原谅自己母亲的故事:也许对她而言这样做无可厚非,但与此同时人们也绝不该为自己迟迟不肯原谅父母而感到彷徨自责,毕竟不是所有父母都值得被原谅的,更何况很多时候,你以为的forgiveness其实只是为父母找的借口而已。 总之 祝我们都能早日拥有post traumatic wisdom吧😊
看完了第一章,感觉跟 the body keeps the score 的主旨太像了,大概是 the body keeps the score + maybe you should talk to someone 的集合吧。大段大段的斜体让读书体验不是很友好。
绝不原谅施虐者