书籍 Maybe You Should Talk to Someone的封面

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Lori Gottlieb

出版时间

2019-04-01

ISBN

9781328662057

评分

★★★★★

标签

心理学

书籍介绍

One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose office she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but.

As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients' lives -- a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness, a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better, and a twenty-something who can't stop hooking up with the wrong guys -- she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell.

With startling wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change.

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is revolutionary in its candor, offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly revealing portrait of what it means to be human, and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them.

用户评论
年度最佳的救赎 so so healing
十分之一弃。这个style我们就命名为the wife style吧。一直忍着,想着这么高分一定有点什么可取之处,但是一章接一章的莫名其妙,本世纪仿佛是等不到了。个人理解就是一个therapist把全体读者当自己的therapist的大型dumping现场。(她真的就只是dump,dump完了为了上价值勉强敷衍几句“这个故事教会了我ABC”且通常连BC都没有就一句A)另外强烈推荐豆瓣在想看在看和看过以外增加一个“弃看”,不然我只看了十分之一就打一分还是于心有愧的。
跟Mr.idiot相反,我非常愿意甚至有点儿过度表达自己不愉快的童年,不仅乐意承认它给我造成的伤害甚至会把它作为借口逃避一些不愉快的选择。看这本书很受启发,跟自己和解,更能想明白自己跟爱人的关系,不应该从他身上获取情感,应该是互相分享。跟作者一样,不愿意承认,但隐约还是被年龄在催促担忧焦虑,埋的够深而已。童年的问题要懂得脱敏,要珍惜自己。我以前总觉得找therapist寻求帮助不适合我是因为我不可能信任对方,没法真心袒露,看这本书明白了therapist能把人剥开,是在几乎等于斗争的过程中帮助客户(不是患者),不配合的客户有对应的手段。没看这本书之前我真的没认识到其实年龄的变化给我带来了同样的焦虑,很多时候的懊恼跟做决策的纠结都受那个我之前没听到的声音影响,担心自己经不起折腾了。
听的Audible版,仿佛做了14小时的therapy,深感值回票价。虽然是学心理的但是对therapy满心狐疑的我终于与其和解。
可以帮助您自省的人。Brought me to tears many times.
大概持续了两个月,睡前或周末断断续续读完。中间有很多充满智慧的表达,作者的真诚也很令人感动。最重要的是,一个个人物的鲜活故事,让人共鸣也让人反思。今天在从西伊豆徒步回来的漫漫长路上读完最后的部分。夹在满座的电车里,读到Julie的葬礼和John的自我和解,眼泪和鼻涕几度涌出来,幸好戴着口罩,不至于过分尴尬……
“The only way out is been through.”
We have to accept that life is not perfect. But reading all those stories and feeling that everything eventually fall into their places, I think I might have defined ‘perfection’ wrongly in the first place. Good read of the year. Thank you, Lori!
Enlightening, inspiring stories about facing external uncertainties and internal vulnerabilities. We change via relationships with others. We need to see ourselves truthfully. We are all gonna die.
反思了好多我看心理医生时的情形 在逐渐接受termination啦!我可太爱心理咨询了