书籍介绍
The sequel to the global bestseller The Courage To Be Disliked, the Japanese phenomenon in applying twentieth-century psychology to contemporary dilemmas continues with life-changing advice on finding happiness.
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In The Courage To Be Happy, Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga again distil their wisdom into simple yet profound advice to show us how we, too, can use twentieth-century psychological theory to find true happiness.
ON THE COURAGE TO BE DISLIKED:
The ideas proffered here will certainly make you think twice about the real cause of the emotional drama in your life. A thought-provoking read. - Mail on Sunday.
A real game-changer - Marie Claire.
用户评论
嗯这本听着感觉没有The Courage to be Disliked好，真的该讲处事方式的时候，有些地方有点避重就轻含糊其辞，婚恋观那块儿特别明显算是意料之中，Adlerian psychology有非常进步的潜质，与它匹配的感情观是完全可以打破亲密范式霸权的，只不过解读的人还有局限性，以及最后说它和宗教不一样它不是永恒固定的经文它的解读有发展性就emmmmm，难怪一边引用love thy neighbour as thyself一边不肯承认自己的思想和宗教的高度相似，so narrow-minded about religion
两年前读Disliked，让我重新思考自己对人际关系的看法，刚好日常社交网收到各种陌生人的评论，拒绝用黑名单拿这种被各种误解的情绪训练自己跟他人的关系，非常受用。Happy的入点更好，education setting，棍棒教育不好是因为敲打则避，避而重复，无根本改进，只培养人擅闪避。因此praise跟rebuking都不行，赏罚教育出来的人只会追求奖赏，没奖赏就失去动力，渐成精致利己主义。阿德勒跟弗诺伊德分道扬镳就是弗太注重本能，阿德勒将本我转向society，即这本书里的community feelings。读时感动但跟Youth一样觉得Adler的观点执行太难，可也没多少年大家能达成共识棍棒教育的大弊，未来摒弃奖罚教育也可期，love is self-reliance值得细想。
6 hours 5/26
等待被爱是幼稚的，追求幸福是需要勇气的。世界是简单的，人生也一样，但保持这种简单是困难的。只有摆脱“我”成为“我们”才能得到真正的幸福……思想的种子已经播下，静待发芽。
从me到us, 最后突然巴丢
Love, respect, be self-reliant.
喜欢最后的10%。love & marriage is for a happier life, not an easier life. It has difficulties. We need the courage to love, to be self-reliant, and choose life. 面对过去和未来，我们需要的居然是勇气
To love… Actively. We before I.
有听他胡说八道了六个小时